Pendulum Learning

 

Are you like me when it comes to being set free from (released from) something that has kept you bound up: in that, when you are released, your momentum of freedom sends you to an opposite similarity?

Like a pendulum being release at a high point, only to swing to the other extreme.

Does that other end of the pendulum swing become your new normal (getting captured there), or do you eventually swing back to settle in the balance of peace between the two?

Let’s start as a child.

Each aspect (area) of your existence (countless areas) are each as a pendulum.

As Nature/Nurture develop you (all the way back in the womb), many of those pendulum-aspects get pushed out of equilibrium (balance) into unhealthy ways of life—unhealthy in the sense that it is not the way the Lord intended and designed for you.

Pushed there by real and perceived abandonment, abuse, neglect, fear, trauma, torment, change, isolation, illness, shaming, bullying, and all the myriad of things that shape our personality and beings.

Survival and coping mechanisms form in you and can eventually trap your pendulum-life-aspect into an eventual stronghold—holding your life-aspect into that pendulum position.

But this position becomes your normal. It has the same lack of kinetic energy as if it were at rest in an equilibrium state. We feel at rest even though we are pushed into that high-swing (amplitude) position.

Being locked into that amplitude, we are in imbalance and don’t even know it.

Ideally, we are supposed to grow up in balance ("equilibrium position"), not extremes ("amplitudes"). But unfortunately, we do have pendulum-aspects of our life that exist at this "amplitude"—your current pendulum-aspect-amplitude.

Note that your angle of amplitude may be higher or lower than someone else’s. Not that theirs is any less, nor yours any more, difficult to deal with (or even see and acknowledge).

But it is our responsibility to find a way to get that pendulum unstuck (or not constantly swaying at pushed high-extremes). Which means it needs correcting—whether you are still able to so during childhood (before it gets to a higher amplitude), or now need to as an adult.

Of note: so many of these pendulum-aspects of life overlap and engage with all the other pendulum-aspects. Addressing one, affect others—and not addressing others affect the one (like coupled / oscillating pendulums).

What a complicated and convoluted mess!

But we need to get our pendulum-aspects set free—for your benefit, for those around you, and for generations that follow after you.

And besides, this is what the Lord eagerly and longingly wants for you—freedom to not be stuck at some extreme!

Let’s now say you are working on those feelings of abandonment or abuse from your childhood. Symptoms that manifest now in your life from this are maybe (differing for each person) an eating disorder, fear of rejection, self-isolation, anger/rage, self-protection (narcissism), physical pains, boundaries, emotions, thoughts, sex, etc.

Let’s isolate one of those symptoms as our pendulum-aspect: anger/rage. And your pendulum may have been pushed into one of the two amplitudes (one on each side of the equilibrium position).

Diagrammatically (and for simpler discussions), the pendulum swings two-dimensionally (not conically).

At one end, your anger/rage comes out externally.

At the other end, you bury internally your anger/rage.

Both are your expressions of anger/rage,

yet NEITHER of these extremes is healthy.

Remember, anger/rage IS a healthy emotion—it is what we do with it (how we express and how other’s interpret that expression) that can be detrimental to our health and others.

• Your buried rage/anger reality: Do you find that the externalised anger/rage of your parents made you “swear” never to show that yourself? This causing you to withdraw from others when you were angered (who, they, in-turn feel you are abandoning them in your isolating—even when that is not your heart-intent).

What if their buried rage/anger became your buried rage/anger—whether you projecting theirs, or being your own anger/rage coping mechanism?

Do you become an unavailable partner (interpreted as emotionally and physically neglective)?

• Your externalised rage/anger reality: Do you find that the buried anger/rage of your parents made you not able to learn and process anger/rage in a healthy way? That, without proper tools, your anger/rage now causes you to become expressive to others when angered (who, they, in-turn, feel you are angry at them—even when not).

What if their externalised rage/anger became your externalised rage/anger—whether you projecting theirs, or being your own anger/rage coping mechanism?

Do you become an aggressive partner (interpreted as emotionally and physically abusive)?

Mix-and-match those different combinations however you want—whether your survival-response to them kept you repeating the same as your parents or pushed you into the complete opposite.

If your anger/rage pendulum-aspect is not at equilibrium, this then is simply your stronghold. Even if your anger/rage pendulum swings uncontrollably from one end to the other (alternating between

Now what happens if two partners are each at opposing amplitudes—one closing-off when angry, and the other losing-control? Is one easier to recognise/diagnose than the other? Are both expressions neither of you have the strategies to cope with? How do your children interpret and cope?

Ok… so now what?

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Well… there are three tasks required of you:

1. Free yourself from your stronghold (pendulum amplitude).
2. Free yourself from your unhealthy reactions to other people’s stronghold (pendulum amplitude).
3. Teach both of these freedoms into your children.

Let’s focus here on us freeing ourselves from that stronghold and what can happen when that pendulum gets loose.

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How you break free is unique to you—perhaps a culminating seeds and watering of: experience, introspection, therapy, medication, relationships, and the Lord. All of which form the journey in which I am sharing.

And I have witnessed in my life what can happen when I am set free from a specific stronghold.

For when a pendulum that is stuck in an amplitude gets released, momentum (kinetic energy) will drive it towards the equilibrium state it wants to be in—but often-times past that balancing point into the opposite extreme (opposing amplitude).

Now, with this swing from one-end-to-the-other, both ends of that amplitude existence (stronghold) are exposed, explored, and experienced—not necessarily as a positive, but as a knowing.

Sometimes, it is only when both opposing amplitudes are experienced and understood (not holding onto each amplitude end), that we get a broader perspective of the different "ends" of a life-aspect.

This may be beneficial to see and experience for comparison and reflection (empathy / love) for others on the opposite end (experiencing their own amplitude origin), but it also can help be a "reset" for you as you let go of what you were stuck in at your original "origin" point.

But, swinging from one end to the other may not be ideal for you personally—as our purposed intent is to settle into the equilibrium position.

For, if our pendulum life-aspect does not get stuck at the opposite “new-to-us” amplitude, then it will eventually and naturally settle down into the middle (our equilibrium position).

This equilibrium position is our originally-designed, originally-intended, God-desired state (point/position) of existence. One that we would have existed in if it were not for human error or corrupted nature.

So, when we settle (rest) into that equilibrium position, we get back to our God-given freedom point.

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Then does that pendulum now need to be locked into that equilibrium position?

Yes, but, realistically no—for we are still a human being whose other imbalances in life jostle our other pendulum-aspects. And whose pendulum also gets jostled by other people’s pendulums.

We may be set free in one area, but not another. Other’s may be set free in some, but not all either.

But we can still aim to “be still and know that I am God” in all aspects of our life.

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We all have these strongholds in some form or another—programmed into us whether we liked it or not.

And though we all have these life-aspect-pendulums, its amplitude point for you might be at the complete opposite end of the amplitude for someone else—even though it is the same life-aspect pendulum.

Yours may be "higher" / "lower" than someone else's; or theirs stuck for a "longer" / "shorter" time than you.

Thus, it may take more time to "get loose" for you or another person. And when it does get set free, that pendulum may swing to a "higher" / "lower" opposite than what you may experience.

You may have it sway when loosed; some may have it get stuck in another amplitude (complexly in any conical swing position); another may not get it unstuck or stilled; others may find the help to get it gently guided into a place of rest (freedom).

Whatever you face, the goal is to get yourself into that equilibrium position; regardless of how difficult or how long it takes. And also while dealing with your reactions to other’s strongholds.

And because it will be different for you and for each and every other person, we all need to experience it for ourselves, sharing along the way to help be a gentle guide for someone else to get to that place of rest (freedom).

And we have to be careful not to push our/their pendulum farther (higher) in the opposite direction, or cause it to get stuck at that opposite end (extreme).

Remember: BOTH ends (extremes) are equally bad—for they are both captivity (a stronghold).

And if you find yourself constantly swinging between the two, it can be because of old wounds, triggers, new traumas, or various life events. There too needing attention and healing. Other pendulums on the same string.

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The Lord wants us to settle into the rest that avoids the imbalance of pendulum swings.

Yet, if the Lord guides, He can hold the pendulum when it releases to gently guide it to its equilibrium position, or create a resistance for it to fully swing to the opposite end.

Whichever experience you have, let that swing of the pendulum be a means to better understand that life-aspect to become better at who you truly are in that equilibrium position state.

And continually stay focused on healing each new pendulum-amplitude-stronghold you encounter to:

1. Free yourself from your stronghold (pendulum amplitude).
2. Free yourself from your unhealthy reactions to other people’s stronghold (pendulum amplitude).
3. Teach both of these freedoms into your children.